It’s human nature to make presumptions. Life is about making judgments, smaller or bigger, about other people or about facts. The human mind makes snap judgments based on prior experience or on what they think others think about that subject — just to be in line with a specific group.
The immense issue comes when people let prejudices raise a wall, without letting the book speak beyond the cover they can see.
Many of us are so set on autopilot that we lose sight of many things that could bring us genuine joy.
Doesn’t it seem strange to you to live through the prism of the past or the future and not of the present moment? It is paradoxical how we have the PRESENT in every moment, but we subconsciously choose to live in the past or in the future.
Clinically, this style of thinking can lead to depression or anxiety.
Been there, done that. Until I became tired of settling for life on autopilot. …
My love, please take a deep breath and imagine my cheerful face looking at you with love and confidence. Look into your soul and seek the strength to forgive me for all the pain I have caused you.
Please forgive me for not having the power to tell you these things by looking into your eyes. Forgive me for hurting the woman you love so much, turning her into an unhappy soul in her own skin.
Forgive me for taking so long to admit that I’m not doing well.
Forgive me for letting all the insignificant things overshadow the joy of being with you. Forgive me for not having the strength to fight the evil thoughts in my head. Forgive me for hiding my feelings from you. Forgive me for hiding in me, taking you away from me. Forgive me for not communicating with you and making you less communicative. Forgive me for not being by your side when you needed me. …
I wrote my very first piece on Medium 2 months ago. Not a single viral story. Less than 3000 views overall. Only 10 bucks made from my writing. And that is fucking perfect, though. I wrote over 50.000 words in drafts since then — but published less than 10k because there are only raw thoughts.
I didn’t let my own voice to be known. I did this only once when I shared a personal story about an experience that affected me some years ago when some people assumed I am worthless just because I am fat. The editors chose it for further distribution. It might be good. But for sure, it is emotional. …
If you are struggling, check your passion levels. If passion is not the problem, check your persistence. If it's not persistence, check the plan. If it's not the plan, check your priorities. If not the priorities, check your purpose. If none of those are the issue, you have no issue. Stop worrying and get back to work with a faithful heart. — Brendon Burchard
I read several times these wise words from Brendon Burchard — one of the most-followed personal development trainers in the world. He made me think about motivation. About how motivation affects the self-growing process.
Wikipedia says ”motivation is the reason for people’s actions, willingness, and goals”. Since we all perform many actions every single day, we have a certain level of motivation in us. It is completely different that we do not perform those specific activities that we want. …
At the core, I am a big perfectionist. I dream about all the things in my life that should be in place, well set up to work smoothly.
I am far from calling myself a doer. I overthink every simple fact in my life.
At least I used to until some time ago when it hit me. It hit me hard.
I realized that life leaves some consequences behind, even if I do not notice them at first. Life happens no matter what. Life happens even if I am not fully present to feel it. …
When my therapist started asking me questions about who I was, what I wanted, I realized that I didn’t know myself very well. I didn't know my purpose in life. All I knew was I needed to live at my full potential.
Everything seemed so overwhelming — so many changes at once… If I failed to change small things over time, my brain could not adapt to so many changes in such a short time.
So I made a shortlist with some principles to follow and build a lifestyle around them. …
“Everything can be taken from a man but one thing: the last of the human freedoms — to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.”
― Viktor E. Frankl, Man’s Search for Meaning
They all say all over again that it’s not what’s happening… it’s how we react. It is about how we respond to life, not how life treats us.
When we are in pain, we think less clear and don’t see any solution for our insupportable pain. It takes a great effort and self-power to overcome the dark thoughts and encouragement to fight with that pain. …